Congratulations on your recent wedding!
Well the big day is now behind you and you have started to figure out what being married really means. My "Prince Charming" may not be perfect, and my "Princess" may have some short comings also.

You may be discovering that married life is not always unending bliss. In fact, more that half of newly married couples express shock and surprise at the amount of conflict they experience with their new spouses within six months of after their wedding. Please remember that these are "normal" feelings, so don't be alarmed. Did you know that the number one predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict.

We think that "being in love" means not to disagree. And we are afraid "to rock the boat" thinking that if we disagree or have a fight that we have made a mistake, so we develop a pattern of pretending that everything is fine. Eventually we have build a wall with items "we can't/won't discuss" that we become more and more isolated. It's unfortunate that in a lot of marriages most of the communications between couples are fights or discussion about someone or something else. Successful couples know how to discuss their differences with respect and care, thereby strengthening their relationships and improve intimacy.

Remember that very few couples go down the aisle with the "separation or divorce" in mind, yet over 50% of new marriages end in divorce. The odds of you having a marriage that will last a lifetime will for the most part depend on how much time and effort you are willing to commit to each other and your marriage, and agree on a plan of action when your marriage hits a roadblock.

We encourage you to invest in your marriage by developing a RSU Marriage-Maintenance Plan

Participate in a communications & relationship skill building workshop

Then participate at least once a year in a marriage-related class, seminar, or works

Agree as a couple to seek help immidialtely when one of you feels that you are on a downward spiral.

Continue a weekly "alone time", even when children become part of your life, and continue to have FUN. Showing your children that your relationship is important is the best gift you can give them.

Set time aside to discuss and problem solve issues

By committing to the above, you have chosen to apply your resources of time, energy and money towards Marriage Insurance, and develop a RSU Marriage-Maintenance-Plan. These are preventative measures to insure the health of your marriage by creating a healthy and happy environment for each other.